So I'm officially on the market... yet... again... *sigh*
Prior to Mr.Guy and I getting together, I was single for almost 6 years. You would think I'd be a pro at dating and meeting guys. But in those 6 years of singlehood, I learned NOTHING! I rarely dated. I'm good at being social, but not good at taking risks when it comes to guys I'm attracted to and interested in.
Obviously, I got nowhere. Ha!
But this time around, I want it to be different. Make it worth my while. So when I look back upon my single life, I can say I have no regrets, I had fun and thoroughly enjoyed myself.
I'm unsure how to go about it. With Mr.Guy I put so much into our relationship - more than my effort added together from all my past relationships and look where it got me? Wasted effort on someone probably not worth my while.
Do you have any good advice? Any ideas on how to meet guys? How do I get myself out there? Better yet, do you have any single guy friends you can set me up with? LOL!
Seriously though. I'm not kidding. I'm open to anything. And even more open to things you think I wouldn't do!
me...a travel agent?
13 hours ago
7 comments:
sister you know my thoughts on this topic already. :) and if you get any tips, let me know how that works. i have 5 words for you:
"k good luck with that"
This is quite a change from your old blog - I really had to read inbetween the lines. This blog is like you are putting out everything on the table.
You've come a long way...I'm proud of you.
As for any single guys I know, you already know all of them.
"K good luck with that" - this is still on my list to use! LOL!
thanks leeshi! yes, it's all out there now!
it's actually a change i'm comfortable with now. in my old blog i never said much, but always "felt" i said too much. now i'm pretty much saying everything, but am ok with it... weird.
Hey maur,
Congrats on getting rid of the deadweight. It's time you started having fun again.
Your blog is so refreshing and and it's great to hear your honest self-reflection. Like Cris and Leesh said, it's quite different from your previous blogs and so proud of you for trying to put your true feelings out there. Your writing is clear and vivid and some of us may learn a thing or to from what you have to say.
Keep it up :-)
Can't wait to read maur!
Suggestions:
1) Literally write down a list of what you're looking for in a guy. Be as vague or as detailed as you want. The more detailed the better. By writing it down, you're forcing yourself to think about the qualities you're looking for in a man. In turn, you're telling your subconcious what to start keeping an eye out for. It's kinda like having that itch to buy a new car. Before that itch, you could care less about the cars on the road. But once you get that itch you can't help but notice all sorts of cars around you. That's your subconcious mind looking for what you desire.
This list is a work in progress and may change frequently depending on what it is your looking for at that time.
2) Guys suck at picking up hints. Guys suck at noticing the "little things" in general. That's because we're guys, and that's how we're wired. If you like a guy, let him know. I'm not saying to drool over him or make a fool of yourself. (I know you wouldn't do that) Just tell him you like him. Just step out of your comfort zone for 3 seconds to say 3 words, "I Like You". And If the guy has game, the conversation just might flow from there.
3) Practice talking to strangers more often, even if it's to make a witty comment about how late the bus is. The idea is to just get comfortable talking to new people. With enough practice this should eventually lead up to talking to new guys.
4) That's all I can think of. Again, these are only suggestions.
First of all, this blog in itself is a huge change. I love the honesty and openness you're sharing with us.
As for any advice, I think this is a good start - being open and honest and putting yourself out there.
Two quotes for you:
The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimisit sees opportunity in every difficulty.
Don't be afraid to go out on a limb. That's where the fruit is.
Love you always and really proud of you for taking this very positive step.
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